The first time I was called a faggot I was around five years old. It was an older boy who opened my eyes to what others already knew about before I could point out what was 'wrong' with me. It took me a few years to come out to friends in Mexico; then, I moved to the U.S. and the story repeats itself. I have to come out over and over and over... and sometimes I think the coming out NEVER ENDS! Half the time (if not every time) I meet someone, I am assumed to be heterosexual. That's ok. That's how we were wired. Unless you're a flaming Queen, no one would ever imagine! But anyway, I am in a safe place to live my truth. I wish for everyone to be happy and find the person that makes them even more happy and share their lives together. I have found my better half and, luckily, we have spent six years together, the last year as a married couple. I cannot explain how proud and privileged I feel for being able to celebrate this.
October 12th, 1998
Yesterday was National Coming Out Day.
Today is the nineteenth anniversary of the death of Matthew Shepard. One year away from two decades since he was left almost for dead that cold night of October. For our Family from way before Matthew and for many more, we need to speak up for those voiceless. I recently posted a Facebook status asking my friends for their opinion on whether a post-op trans woman should disclose this to every man she dates. The response from heterosexual white cis gender males was predictable: YES! I understand that honesty is a no-brainer, but I don't think it should be disclosed right away. Even I don't feel safe sometimes. Look at Matthew's story! Anyway, I took down the status because there was a guy that simply did not grasp the concept of how disrespectful and ignorant he was. I am all for his freedom of speech, I am not censoring him, but he did need to be shut down. The more he spoke, the more idiocy came out of his mouth. Part of my response was the photo below. We have come a long way, but there is so much more to do still. Stay strong. You are not alone!
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...Relax. Take it Easy.